SUMMARY POINTS
Every office has one—that uber-confident office superstar who never puts a wrong foot forward or gets crushed by setbacks.
They’re the complete opposite of you - you’re more of an introvert.
You tend to be more on the quiet side. Plus, a bit risk-averse and terrified of failing. So you keep your head down and try not to draw attention to yourself. Then, you beat yourself up about everything that goes wrong.
Your confidence level is zero and a lot of this is because of the inner asshole in your head. It’s the internal critic that’s always raining on your parade.
It immediately latches onto the negatives and is constantly putting you down.
You know the drill:
You’re an idiot.
You’re a failure.
You’ll never get promoted.
That’s never gonna happen.
You’re going to be stuck like this forever.
Your inner critic can be an absolute bitch. It’s totally ruined your self-esteem. You don’t value yourself at all and you can’t imagine anyone doing anything about it either.
It all adds up to a lackluster attitude and performance that’s mediocre at best.
You know you’re never going to succeed at work if things carry on like this. And, you feel stuck in your career.
You want to change but deep down, fear is holding you back. You don’t believe you’re capable of better and it feels safer to stay where you are.
But here’s the good news.
You can tell your inner critic to shut the fuck up and then, swap it for a new positive mental coach who will support you.
What you don’t realize is that the super confident office superstar has a cheerleader in their corner. And by harnessing the same mindset tricks, you can tap into the same confidence too.
It all starts with confidence affirmations. Doing these daily will banish your inner critic, get you out of your funk and help you manage work stress like a champ.
It won’t happen overnight but starting today, you can work on undoing the years of negative mental bias and reach your potential.
They’re the complete opposite of you - you’re more of an introvert.
You tend to be more on the quiet side. Plus, a bit risk-averse and terrified of failing. So you keep your head down and try not to draw attention to yourself. Then, you beat yourself up about everything that goes wrong.
Your confidence level is zero and a lot of this is because of the inner asshole in your head. It’s the internal critic that’s always raining on your parade.
It immediately latches onto the negatives and is constantly putting you down.
You know the drill:
You’re an idiot.
You’re a failure.
You’ll never get promoted.
That’s never gonna happen.
You’re going to be stuck like this forever.
Your inner critic can be an absolute bitch. It’s totally ruined your self-esteem. You don’t value yourself at all and you can’t imagine anyone doing anything about it either.
It all adds up to a lackluster attitude and performance that’s mediocre at best.
You know you’re never going to succeed at work if things carry on like this. And, you feel stuck in your career.
You want to change but deep down, fear is holding you back. You don’t believe you’re capable of better and it feels safer to stay where you are.
But here’s the good news.
You can tell your inner critic to shut the fuck up and then, swap it for a new positive mental coach who will support you.
What you don’t realize is that the super confident office superstar has a cheerleader in their corner. And by harnessing the same mindset tricks, you can tap into the same confidence too.
It all starts with confidence affirmations. Doing these daily will banish your inner critic, get you out of your funk and help you manage work stress like a champ.
It won’t happen overnight but starting today, you can work on undoing the years of negative mental bias and reach your potential.
What Are Affirmations?
Everything you say to yourself is an affirmation. The shitty things you say to yourself every day are affirmations too, albeit negative ones. The more you say or think them, the more you’re reinforcing them to yourself.
Affirmations take your thoughts (good or bad) and use them to shape your perspective, decisions and actions on everything that’s going on in your life.
Just as you’ve come to believe the crappy self-talk you use daily, you can also use the power of affirmations to make your mindset more positive. In other words, you can turn the tables on your inner critic.
Because your self-talk is super negative at the moment, you need intentional statements to switch things up. You’re telling yourself good things about yourself and where you’re going.
Positive affirmations are short, positive statements that encourage positive thinking. They’re intentional thoughts that act as reminders to inspire and motivate you.
It’s like being your own best cheerleader.
Affirmations take your thoughts (good or bad) and use them to shape your perspective, decisions and actions on everything that’s going on in your life.
Just as you’ve come to believe the crappy self-talk you use daily, you can also use the power of affirmations to make your mindset more positive. In other words, you can turn the tables on your inner critic.
Because your self-talk is super negative at the moment, you need intentional statements to switch things up. You’re telling yourself good things about yourself and where you’re going.
Positive affirmations are short, positive statements that encourage positive thinking. They’re intentional thoughts that act as reminders to inspire and motivate you.
It’s like being your own best cheerleader.
The Power Of Confidence Affirmations
Remember how easy it was to feel confident when you were young?
Most kids are fearless. They think nothing of putting themselves out there and risking failure. It’s only as adults that we start to feel more self-conscious and uncertain about showing that level of confidence.
Years of negative self-talk has done a number on your self-esteem. It’s destroyed your confidence and sent your creativity and productivity plummeting. You probably can’t even remember the last time you felt confident, right?
Check out this 2-minute video for an awesome reminder of what it means to be confident - through the eyes of kids who have it in spades.
The dinosaur joke toward the end is hilarious.
VIDEO: The Kid’s Guide to Confidence
YOUTUBE: Stories Like Us
LENGTH: 2:37
Most kids are fearless. They think nothing of putting themselves out there and risking failure. It’s only as adults that we start to feel more self-conscious and uncertain about showing that level of confidence.
Years of negative self-talk has done a number on your self-esteem. It’s destroyed your confidence and sent your creativity and productivity plummeting. You probably can’t even remember the last time you felt confident, right?
Check out this 2-minute video for an awesome reminder of what it means to be confident - through the eyes of kids who have it in spades.
The dinosaur joke toward the end is hilarious.
VIDEO: The Kid’s Guide to Confidence
YOUTUBE: Stories Like Us
LENGTH: 2:37
Summary points:
Positive affirmations can bring back the kind of confidence you had as a kid. If you want to be more successful or more confident, they’re your secret weapon.
They break the negative thought patterns that are holding you back.
They also negate some of the effects of your shitty self-esteem.
This study shows how affirmations can counteract the decline in problem-solving skills that can be caused by stress.
When you state positive affirmations, you instantly feel better.
And this study published in Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience confirmed why. It used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) technology and found out why affirmations are so powerful.
It turns out they activate reward centers in the brain. These are the same ones that light up when you do something enjoyable, such as winning a competition or eating your favorite food.
And the more you repeat affirmations, the stronger their power. It’s like when you’ve planted seeds in a garden. Keep watering them and they’ll grow.
Want to know why this is?
It’s because your brain doesn’t dismiss them as fantasy.
Your brain doesn’t know the difference between the change you want to create and what’s happening right now. It picks up on the feelings you’re manifesting.
It doesn’t matter that right now, your confidence is rock bottom.
As long as you honestly feel the intent behind the words, your brain responds to confidence affirmations as though they’re real. It believes everything you’re saying and it helps to generate confidence in your life.
That’s why positive affirmations are rooted in the present and first-person. It helps your brain to believe them as fact and to feel them as real. When you talk in the future tense, your brain feels like it’s a goal and not something that’s happening right now.
You’re literally reprogramming your mind for possibility.
They break the negative thought patterns that are holding you back.
They also negate some of the effects of your shitty self-esteem.
This study shows how affirmations can counteract the decline in problem-solving skills that can be caused by stress.
When you state positive affirmations, you instantly feel better.
And this study published in Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience confirmed why. It used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) technology and found out why affirmations are so powerful.
It turns out they activate reward centers in the brain. These are the same ones that light up when you do something enjoyable, such as winning a competition or eating your favorite food.
And the more you repeat affirmations, the stronger their power. It’s like when you’ve planted seeds in a garden. Keep watering them and they’ll grow.
Want to know why this is?
It’s because your brain doesn’t dismiss them as fantasy.
Your brain doesn’t know the difference between the change you want to create and what’s happening right now. It picks up on the feelings you’re manifesting.
It doesn’t matter that right now, your confidence is rock bottom.
As long as you honestly feel the intent behind the words, your brain responds to confidence affirmations as though they’re real. It believes everything you’re saying and it helps to generate confidence in your life.
That’s why positive affirmations are rooted in the present and first-person. It helps your brain to believe them as fact and to feel them as real. When you talk in the future tense, your brain feels like it’s a goal and not something that’s happening right now.
You’re literally reprogramming your mind for possibility.
How To Use Confidence Affirmations
Confidence affirmations can be incredibly powerful, especially if you use them for maximum effect. The key is to make them a habit and use them in situations where mindset is critical.
Try these tricks to get the most from your confidence affirmations.
Try these tricks to get the most from your confidence affirmations.
1) Make Them Part Of A Daily Routine
To get the most from them, you’ll need to repeat your confidence affirmations at least daily. Build them into your routine so you don’t forget.
Tying them to something you do every single day is perfect for this. You can use them when you brush your teeth or drink your coffee in the morning. It doesn’t matter what activity you pair them with - just make sure it’s something you do daily so you can keep developing the habit.
Or you can write them on sticky notes and put them somewhere you’ll see them every day. You might put them on the bathroom mirror or your computer at work, for example.
Taking a midday break to do confidence affirmations is another smart move. Build them into your lunch break or as part of a toilet meditation. They can quickly become another part of your routine.
Tying them to something you do every single day is perfect for this. You can use them when you brush your teeth or drink your coffee in the morning. It doesn’t matter what activity you pair them with - just make sure it’s something you do daily so you can keep developing the habit.
Or you can write them on sticky notes and put them somewhere you’ll see them every day. You might put them on the bathroom mirror or your computer at work, for example.
Taking a midday break to do confidence affirmations is another smart move. Build them into your lunch break or as part of a toilet meditation. They can quickly become another part of your routine.
2) Turn To Them When Shit Happens
Whenever shit hits the fan at work, turn to your confidence affirmations to keep positive.
Ordinarily, setbacks would make you feel incredibly crappy. And your inner critic has a field day with everything that went wrong and how you screwed up. It’s berating you while you’re putting out fires all day.
But it doesn’t need to be like this. You can show your inner critic who’s boss with some kick-ass confidence affirmations.
Turn it around with confidence affirmations like these:
“I have the power to overcome setbacks and hurdles.”
“I remain strong and calm in the face of challenges.”
See how positive you feel just by saying them out loud. Make it more powerful by writing it down and keeping it somewhere visible.
Ordinarily, setbacks would make you feel incredibly crappy. And your inner critic has a field day with everything that went wrong and how you screwed up. It’s berating you while you’re putting out fires all day.
But it doesn’t need to be like this. You can show your inner critic who’s boss with some kick-ass confidence affirmations.
Turn it around with confidence affirmations like these:
“I have the power to overcome setbacks and hurdles.”
“I remain strong and calm in the face of challenges.”
See how positive you feel just by saying them out loud. Make it more powerful by writing it down and keeping it somewhere visible.
3) Reinforce Your Small Wins
Celebrating your small wins at work is a proven way to boost positivity. They provide a dopamine hit that gets addictive. The more small wins you notch up, the more you’re compelled to go after them.
But here’s the thing. You can create an even bigger uplift of positivity by bringing confidence affirmations into play too.
Whenever you score a small victory, boost it with some confidence affirmations:
“I am creative and I can achieve my full potential.”
“I have the talent and drive to be successful.”
“I’m good at my job and others appreciate my input.”
Every single small victory is worthy of this extra celebration. You’re reminding yourself that what you’ve achieved is no fluke. It’s because you’re on the right path.
And this new mentality will help you get in the zone with work much more easily than before.
But here’s the thing. You can create an even bigger uplift of positivity by bringing confidence affirmations into play too.
Whenever you score a small victory, boost it with some confidence affirmations:
“I am creative and I can achieve my full potential.”
“I have the talent and drive to be successful.”
“I’m good at my job and others appreciate my input.”
Every single small victory is worthy of this extra celebration. You’re reminding yourself that what you’ve achieved is no fluke. It’s because you’re on the right path.
And this new mentality will help you get in the zone with work much more easily than before.
4) Use Your Physical Cues
When you experience negative emotions, it often has physical connotations. Maybe you feel sick to your stomach when you’re nervous or have a ton of tension in your jaw when you get stressed, for example.
Zeroing in on these links can be super smart. When you notice your physical cues appearing, bring your confidence affirmations into play.
You can “anchor” your affirmations too.
If you know you’ll feel sick if you have to do a presentation, keep a hand on your stomach as you repeat your confidence affirmations. When you feel like that again, you can kick ass with confidence affirmations that give you a mental boost to become a whiteboard wizard on your presentation.
Zeroing in on these links can be super smart. When you notice your physical cues appearing, bring your confidence affirmations into play.
You can “anchor” your affirmations too.
If you know you’ll feel sick if you have to do a presentation, keep a hand on your stomach as you repeat your confidence affirmations. When you feel like that again, you can kick ass with confidence affirmations that give you a mental boost to become a whiteboard wizard on your presentation.
5) Feel The Vibrations
Here’s the really cool thing about confidence affirmations. As long as you feel the positive vibes, that’s all you need. It doesn’t matter if your inner critic pops up with a put-down that you’re not actually super confident.
What matters is that you can feel the energy behind the words. The words themselves aren’t the important factor - it’s the vibration and energy they create.
With confidence affirmations, you’re craving the feeling of believing in yourself and accepting your strengths so you can start making them a reality. The universe can pick up on these vibrations and help you to make things happen.
One of the big reasons why affirmations don’t work for everyone is because they create a different feeling to what’s being said. That doesn’t inspire you to create change and your affirmations ultimately fall flat.
Adapting the wording of your affirmations so it feels more attainable helps get around this. Including words like “can,” “willing,” and “choose” are powerful ways to strike the right feeling without feeling out of reach.
What matters is that you can feel the energy behind the words. The words themselves aren’t the important factor - it’s the vibration and energy they create.
With confidence affirmations, you’re craving the feeling of believing in yourself and accepting your strengths so you can start making them a reality. The universe can pick up on these vibrations and help you to make things happen.
One of the big reasons why affirmations don’t work for everyone is because they create a different feeling to what’s being said. That doesn’t inspire you to create change and your affirmations ultimately fall flat.
Adapting the wording of your affirmations so it feels more attainable helps get around this. Including words like “can,” “willing,” and “choose” are powerful ways to strike the right feeling without feeling out of reach.
6) Match Your Actions To Your Intentions
Repeating affirmations regularly won’t magically transform your life if you’re super negative the rest of the time.
It sends mixed messages to the universe and that’s not going to help you create change. It won’t help banish your inner critic either.
To manifest your intentions into reality, your actions need to back them up.
You need to start acting like a confident, kick-ass person, even if you don’t actually feel like one. That means doing things that take you out of your comfort zone, like speaking up in meetings or saying “no” and setting boundaries when you’ve got too much on your plate.
Then, the universe only gets one consistent message - you have confidence. And you’re on the right track to manifest it into being.
It sends mixed messages to the universe and that’s not going to help you create change. It won’t help banish your inner critic either.
To manifest your intentions into reality, your actions need to back them up.
You need to start acting like a confident, kick-ass person, even if you don’t actually feel like one. That means doing things that take you out of your comfort zone, like speaking up in meetings or saying “no” and setting boundaries when you’ve got too much on your plate.
Then, the universe only gets one consistent message - you have confidence. And you’re on the right track to manifest it into being.
Confidence Affirmations To Get You Started
Not sure where to start with coming up with your own confidence affirmations?
Try these to start reprogramming your mind for success:
“I have all I need to make today a great day.”
“I can embody confidence.”
“I can feel comfortable speaking my mind.”
“I’m willing to learn and grow every day.”
“Other people value my skills and knowledge.”
“Challenges are opportunities to grow and improve.”
“I choose to believe in myself and my capabilities.”
“I’m becoming a strong and powerful person.”
“My authentic self has huge value to the world.”
“I am talented and I can make my goals happen.”
“I am taking the right steps to progress at work.”
“I am becoming the best version of myself.”
“I am totally awesome.”
When you’re creating your own versions, stick to the golden rules of positive affirmations.
Notice how these confidence affirmations all include “I” or “my” statements?
And did you also see they’re all in the present tense and most have been tweaked to feel achievable?
Those are the key elements to making this work.
For even more ideas, expand it out further with “I AM” affirmations.
Try these to start reprogramming your mind for success:
“I have all I need to make today a great day.”
“I can embody confidence.”
“I can feel comfortable speaking my mind.”
“I’m willing to learn and grow every day.”
“Other people value my skills and knowledge.”
“Challenges are opportunities to grow and improve.”
“I choose to believe in myself and my capabilities.”
“I’m becoming a strong and powerful person.”
“My authentic self has huge value to the world.”
“I am talented and I can make my goals happen.”
“I am taking the right steps to progress at work.”
“I am becoming the best version of myself.”
“I am totally awesome.”
When you’re creating your own versions, stick to the golden rules of positive affirmations.
Notice how these confidence affirmations all include “I” or “my” statements?
And did you also see they’re all in the present tense and most have been tweaked to feel achievable?
Those are the key elements to making this work.
For even more ideas, expand it out further with “I AM” affirmations.
Reprogram Your Mind For Confidence
Confidence affirmations act as your personal cheerleader, giving you a positive mental boost when you need it most to kick ass.
Use them at least once daily and whenever life gets shitty. It’ll help you keep a positive attitude. You’ll instantly feel better and be able to bounce back faster. Your inner critic won’t get a chance to drag you down.
Practice your confidence affirmations every day to train your brain for positivity. It might feel weird to begin with but you’ll get used to it quickly. And pretty soon, you’ll start undoing the mental damage that your inner critic has reaped.
Your inner asshole doesn’t stand a chance anymore.
You got this!
Feel Better,
[Cubicle|Therapy]
Use them at least once daily and whenever life gets shitty. It’ll help you keep a positive attitude. You’ll instantly feel better and be able to bounce back faster. Your inner critic won’t get a chance to drag you down.
Practice your confidence affirmations every day to train your brain for positivity. It might feel weird to begin with but you’ll get used to it quickly. And pretty soon, you’ll start undoing the mental damage that your inner critic has reaped.
Your inner asshole doesn’t stand a chance anymore.
You got this!
Feel Better,
[Cubicle|Therapy]