Module 3: Lesson 5
Socialize (5 min)

SUMMARY POINTS

> Positive social interactions are feel-good pills
> Face-to-face interactions are the best way to socialize
> Work BFFs are awesome and really help with work stress

Being holed up in your cubicle for most of the day makes you feel like a caged hamster.

For the sake of your sanity, step off the frickin’ hamster wheel and get out of the cube every once in awhile and interact with something other than your computer and smartphone.

If you look at most living creatures, they all socialize in one way or another. Take a look at a herd of elephants, flock of birds or a gang of meerkats (our favorite).

It’s all part of their nature to build and maintain relationships. Plus, it’s also critical to their survival. They support each other and look out for one another.

We humans are no different. We’re social creatures too. We need to have interactions and connections with others to stimulate as well as calm our minds.

The US National Institutes of Health has shown that social interactions are a big factor in influencing your short and long-term mental, physical and emotional health.

Here are main points from the report:
1. Find and maintain good, positive social relationships
2. Ditch the toxic and negative ones that can’t be fixed
3. Choose quality over quantity of relationships
4. Face-to-face is always best

Since we spent most of our waking hours during the week at work, it’s where we have the bulk of our social interactions (good and bad).

It’s the meetings and conversations with our bosses, immediate team members, other co-workers, customers, upper management, suppliers, etc. Often, one or more people from these groups are the source of your stress.

For the times that you’re experiencing work stress from your demanding boss, multi-project mayhem, jerky co-workers, etc., it’s always good to have a fellow stress savior at work.

Most of us have one. We call them our “work BFFs” (Best Friends Forever).

Work BFFs Are Awesome

Work BFFs are always sympathetic to our ongoing struggles. Having one to share your thoughts and feelings with will really help to manage all the craziness that’s going on at work and even at home too.

It helps because they can be with you face-to-face at work and hear you out and sometimes offer up a little advice. Just be sure to be there for them when they need the support too.

So, take breaks and have lunch with your work BFFs every week. Catch up on things. Vent out your frustrations. Be their listener. Laugh together. These positive social interactions at work will make you happier and healthier.

In fact, when was the last time you thanked your work BFF for being there for you? Huh?

Do one of these things for him or her this week:
🙂 Leave them a little smiley face post-it note
🙂 Take them out for a healthy lunch
🙂 Buy them a beer...after work
🙂 Surprise them with a small nutritious snack
🙂 Write a small thank you card
🙂 Get them some herbal stress relieving tea

If you don’t have a work BFF, then reaching out to your friends or family digitally can be good too.

A quick messaging chat, phone call or video call is definitely better than nothing. It’s just not as effective and immediate as having a best bud or gal pal that you can talk with in person at work.

In whatever form, having consistent and positive social interactions, ties and relationships can go a long way in improving your well being.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you need to surround yourself with people all the time. That would drive us crazy too. You need alone time for yourself as well.

It’s all about finding the right balance that works for you.