SUMMARY POINTS
Ever felt the sting of an unsupportive and unprotective boss?
It’s like this: You've just wrapped up a major project, one that demanded your blood, sweat, and countless late nights. You worked your fucking ass off on this. You cross-checked everything and nailed it all.
During the executive presentation, one of the top-level clueless executives starts making baseless comments about how your information is incorrect. What makes your blood boil is that it’s not even his area of expertise.
The comments are coming at you like flaming arrows one right after the other.
You’re expecting some kind of shielding and support from your boss, but there’s nothing but silence. You’re being left alone to be attacked by wolves.
WTF, right?!
It’s like this: You've just wrapped up a major project, one that demanded your blood, sweat, and countless late nights. You worked your fucking ass off on this. You cross-checked everything and nailed it all.
During the executive presentation, one of the top-level clueless executives starts making baseless comments about how your information is incorrect. What makes your blood boil is that it’s not even his area of expertise.
The comments are coming at you like flaming arrows one right after the other.
You’re expecting some kind of shielding and support from your boss, but there’s nothing but silence. You’re being left alone to be attacked by wolves.
WTF, right?!
Why Having A Boss That Has Your Back Matters
That story above is a disheartening scenario that many office workers know all too well. Chances are pretty good that you’ve been in a similar situation too - probably why you’re reading this.
Having a supportive and protective boss is so critical in making your work life productive and dare we say, joyful?
But, when your spineless boss doesn’t stick up for you when you’re getting attacked, you feel deserted, helpless and abandoned.
Here’s why it’s important to have a boss that has your back.
Having a supportive and protective boss is so critical in making your work life productive and dare we say, joyful?
But, when your spineless boss doesn’t stick up for you when you’re getting attacked, you feel deserted, helpless and abandoned.
Here’s why it’s important to have a boss that has your back.
Support Bolsters Confidence
When your boss supports you, it’s not just about words. It’s about action. They become your biggest cheerleader, boosting your confidence and allowing you to take on crazy-ass challenges with assurance. A supportive boss fosters a culture where employees feel empowered and motivated to push boundaries. This confidence translates into improved productivity and innovation, benefiting both you and the organization as a whole.
Encouragement Drives Growth
Supportive bosses recognize the potential in their supporting cast of team members. They provide opportunities for growth, such as professional development programs and challenging projects, helping you expand your skill set and upping your chances of promotion. This encouragement is vital for your long-term growth, as it helps you reach your full potential and sets you up for future success in the workplace.
The Negative Impacts of Not Having A Boss That Protects You

When you have a boss that doesn’t give a shit whether it’s due to lack of motivation, courage and/or skills, it makes your work life and managing work stress much harder. Life is hard enough to get by as it is.
When you don’t have a good protective manager, it leaves you exposed to all sorts of negative consequences.
When you don’t have a good protective manager, it leaves you exposed to all sorts of negative consequences.
Zero Trust Or Faith
Without a boss who advocates for you, trust within the workplace goes down the shitter. It can be challenging to rely on someone who doesn't have your back, leaving you feeling vulnerable and isolated. This lack of trust can lead to communication breakdowns and a toxic work environment, hindering both individual and team performance.
No Professional Growth
When your boss doesn’t support your endeavors, your professional growth will get stifled. You may miss out on crucial opportunities, such as not getting promoted or not being part of high-profile projects, because your contributions go unnoticed. This stagnation can leave you feeling unfulfilled and frustrated, making it difficult to stay motivated and engaged in your work.
More Bullshit Stress And Frustration
Feeling unprotected by your manager can lead to heightened stress levels and frustration. You may constantly worry about layoffs, job security or fear that your hard work will go unrecognized. This stress can take a toll on your mental health, leading to burnout and decreased productivity over time.
What To Do When Your Boss Doesn't Advocate for You
If there’s one thing that’s damn nearly impossible to do is to change somebody’s core beliefs and behaviors. So, you’ve gotta focus your efforts on the things that you can influence and change.
If your boss is shutting you out and isn't advocating for you, start by simply having a one-on-one convo and lay out it all there. Some managers don’t realize the situation you’re in. You gotta discuss your concerns openly and honestly. Frame your conversation around how their support and backing can benefit them and the team. This proactive approach can help address misunderstandings and pave the way for a more supportive relationship.
Get Help Elsewhere
If direct communication doesn’t get you anywhere, seek support from other sources within the organization. Get with your work BFF, build relationships with mentors, or maybe even ask HR for help - even if HR sometimes sucks. You gotta pursue all options for guidance and assistance. These alternative support systems can offer valuable insights and advice, helping you overcome challenges and find ways to thrive despite the lack of advocacy from your boss.
Look For Other Better Jobs
If it’s been shitty for a long time, maybe it’s time to move on. Take charge of your own growth by looking for opportunities outside of your immediate team. Maybe, try for an internal transfer to another group.
Or, if you’re really done with your industry, maybe even switch industries. Attend workshops, conferences, or online courses to enhance your skills and broaden your horizons. The only one that you can truly rely on is yourself.
Or, if you’re really done with your industry, maybe even switch industries. Attend workshops, conferences, or online courses to enhance your skills and broaden your horizons. The only one that you can truly rely on is yourself.
Get Backed Or Move On

In the complex world of workplace dynamics, having a boss who supports and advocates for you can make all the difference between having a job that is fulfilling versus one that is an absolute soul suck.
While it may not always be possible to change your boss's behavior, understanding the importance of workplace advocacy and taking proactive steps can help you create a more positive and supportive work environment.
Have that one-on-one convo. Find other support systems. And, keep an eye out for better jobs. You’re not trapped. You have options. You have the power to make things better for yourself.
Feel Better,
[Cubicle|Therapy]
While it may not always be possible to change your boss's behavior, understanding the importance of workplace advocacy and taking proactive steps can help you create a more positive and supportive work environment.
Have that one-on-one convo. Find other support systems. And, keep an eye out for better jobs. You’re not trapped. You have options. You have the power to make things better for yourself.
Feel Better,
[Cubicle|Therapy]